(Note: This article has been published in deutsch as Die Fesseln des Patriarchats sprengen: Männer-Kultur in
Archearchat at Tattva Viveka:
http://www.tattva.de/die-fesseln-des-patriarchats-sprengen/)
Every now and then a phrase comes along that stimulates sleeping
brain cells you didn’t know you had.
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| Photo by Phyllis Goldman |
Startled, the neurons wake up and perceive
the electrifying impact with uncanny alertness. How soon your brain cells go
back to sleep again depends on how ready you are to jump fully-committed into that
new-found alertness and ride it like a bucking bronco into a new gamespace for your life.
If you ignore the bronco it soon gallops off into the
sunset without you, perhaps never to return. But if you do grab the opportunity this new meme may take you along an
awareness-path into entirely new territory, unexplored, and probably dangerous
to your heretofore unquestioned assumptions.
It is these unquestioned assumptions that rule your
life. Questioning them almost always leads to personal and cultural evolution. A
particular phrase shocks you exactly because it directly challenges your sacred
assumptions.
The particular phrase
we’re speaking of is “men’s culture in archearchy.”
It is possible to avoid the transformational process
of wrestling with this phrase by clinging to familiar but gravely outdated
thoughtware, thereby evading initiation. If that is your wish, please stop
reading here.
The phrase “men’s culture” transports so much new
information that investigating it in this brief article could cause you the
disservice of thinking you actually understand what it means. I take this risk
because I have so often experienced the value of having even a glimpse beyond
my own horizon. So if you will take the time to read this article, then I will
take the time to write it.
Truly understanding what “men’s culture in archearchy”
means could only happen through you personally shifting cultures, leaving
behind the capitalist patriarchal empire of your birth and entering next culture, the culture that comes after matriarchy and patriarchy, the
culture I have come to call archearchy.
Archearchy is the sustainability-conscious culture of archetypally initiated
adult women creatively collaborating with archetypally initiated adult men. Archearchy
is unstoppably emerging around the world through simultaneous personal
experimentation of several millions of people beneath the radar of mainstream
consciousness. You are probably one of the experimenters. I thank you from my
heart for your courageous efforts.
Let’s back off a bit and
take it one step at a time.
The term “men’s culture” obviously implies a related
term “women’s culture,” but their non-equivalence is obscured because our
inquiry here is taking place within the patriarchal context.
In patriarchy, the conditions for men and the
conditions for women are diametrically different but equally dishonorable.
Whereas women are born as slaves and sex objects, men do not have to grow up. Since
the patriarchy does not educate its members that they live in a patriarchy, you
have to figure this out yourself by getting to patriarchy’s thought limits and
looking over the edge. The edge is where growing-up happens.
To “grow up” means to become more and more responsible.
(Responsibility is consciousness in
action. – Possibility Manager
Handbook) Modern patriarchal empire teaches us that taking responsibility
is just plain stupid.
For example, if a child makes a mess, who cleans it
up? The answer is, the parents clean it up. (In a patriarchy Mom cleans it up.) Modern culture is
making huge messes with no intention at all of ever cleaning them up – ocean acidification, children on brain
drugs, fossil-fuel dependent infrastructure, corporate lobbying, burning
tropical rain forests, etc. Modern patriarchal empire is centered on child-level
responsibility.
In modern culture, being responsible means getting
caught, being blamed, punished, found guilty, bearing the burden, and having to
pay. Modern culture has developed “corporate personhood” to protect individuals
from having to take responsibility for their actions. Modern economy teaches by
example that instead of being responsible you should be “smart.” Being “smart”
means to lie, cheat, sneak, deceive, and avoid detection while taking as much
as you can. “Smart” people make profits by externalizing costs:
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to the general public (through government
subsidies),
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to less “modernized” cultures (through “trade
agreements” and sweat shops), and
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to future generations (through raping the
planet’s precious resources, while bribing corrupt officials to permit dumping
toxic and radioactive wastes in other people’s back yards to poison them for
50,000 years).
Our images for “men’s culture” in the capitalist
patriarchal empire may include:
·
Very rich older males sitting around in private
mansions smoking cigars and drinking brandy from snifters.
·
Less rich males sitting around in bars drinking
beers and smoking cigarettes while watching sports, car racing, or rodeo on TV.
·
Males in exotic bars bragging about their cool
cars, cool computers, cool girlfriends, and amazing money deals.
·
Males in mafia, drug gangs, the army, or secret three-letter
societies feeling cool with their weaponry and proprietary knowledge.
·
Multiple generations of males going hunting,
fishing, or shooting together with 4 wheel drive vehicles.
·
Males working in construction or mining jobs
taking lunch breaks together.
What are your impressions of what patriarchal “men’s
culture” is?
Our reference points for “men’s culture” in the “new
age” (for lack of a better term) may look like:
·
Not so old males doing hiking, marathon,
kayaking, or ball sports together.
·
Not so old males having parties, getting drunk,
stoned, or high on cocaine, having porno nights together.
·
Not so old males looking for their next homosexual
partner at men’s gatherings.
·
Not so old males in weekly “Men’s Groups”
discussing identity problems, relationship problems, family problems, health problems,
and financial problems together.
What are your impressions of what new age “men’s
culture” is?
Here we PAUSE, for a moment, to consider a relevant question…
What if all of our reference points
for what “men’s culture” is no longer apply in the culture that comes after patriarchy?
What if acting as if we understand men’s culture is
part of the problem?
What if men’s culture in archearchy is so different from
what we know that the best we can do as men is come together and begin each
meeting by grieving the crimes and horrors of 6000 years of patriarchal men’s
culture? Crimes and horrors done to women, children, animals, and the Earth, that
to a large and damaging degree still continue today?
What if we start by acknowledging that we are the sons
of patriarchs, with only patriarchs as role models? What if we admit that we
are so trapped in our thinking and perceiving that any time we come together we
cannot help but unconsciously invoke capitalist patriarchal empire culture?
It is a wakeup call to recognize that each of us remains
imprisoned in the patriarchy until we have undergone a personal and formidable process
for getting out of it.
This could be considered Item # 1 on your checklist for establishing archearchal men’s culture:
set the times and establish an effective training program to help each other
thoroughly and completely escape from the capitalist patriarchal empire. (HINT:
Your procedure will need to involve each man consciously experiencing and
expressing feelings of fear, anger, sadness and
joy at the 100% maximum archetypal intensity level, otherwise you are merely
thinking. And you can’t think your way out of the patriarchy. You need to get out.)
Escaping from the patriarchy is rough. First comes the
fear of betraying all the males you will leave behind. Second comes the fear of
stepping off the edge of the world and falling into the abyss. Third comes our
patriarchal habits of being single-fighters, lone-wolves, free-lancers, easy
riders, entrepreneurs – heroes in our own mind. We have learned to trust no one.
Perhaps we were taught to be single fighters exactly because we cannot escape the
patriarchy on our own. Then we are trapped because the single fighter strategy fails.
Getting out of the patriarchy depends on the bonding, creative-collaboration, and
coaching of other men.
If you do accomplish Item #1 and escape from the
patriarchy, you will be starting at ground zero, like being born again but into
a radically different culture than that lived by your parents.
You will at
first not know who you are. You will be learning all over again how to become a
human being. Developing your personality and gaining new reference frames won’t
take as long as the first time, but the process will be equally ruthless on you.
You need to figure out how to thrive in a new gameworld, very different from
capitalistic patriarchal empire.
You can do it.
To extract yourself from the patriarchy it helps to
know how you got in it. A male born in modern culture must quickly make a
life-shaping choice. Either you join the patriarchy and “live,” or you reject
the patriarchy and die. (Doctors call it “sudden infant death syndrome”.)
Joining
is the obvious choice, with all the benefits of any gang: identity, camaraderie,
security, power in numbers, defined enemies, and a mission. But when you join
the patriarchy you make the ultimate sacrifice. You can never be yourself. Your
uniqueness is counterproductive in the patriarchy and must be suppressed, lest
you betray the patriarchy, including your father, his brothers, your father’s father
and his brothers, and all the generations of men before you, sacrificing
themselves for the benefit of the patriarchy. To extinguish your uniqueness you
cut out a piece of your soul.
Fortunately the rejected part of your energetic body does not go anywhere. It floats in your
general vicinity, wherever you are, waiting for this very conversation. Learning
that the cut-part of your soul did not
die may be one of the most painfully joyful insights of your life. It did
not go away. It did not abandon you. All this time it has been by your side
waiting for the moment you realize it can be reclaimed.
This could be considered Item # 2 on your checklist for entering archearchal men’s culture: reclaim
banished parts of your soul and integrate them back into your energetic body so
you can start off whole again. (See below for instructions for this process.)
By extracting yourself from the patriarchy and
helping other men do the same, Item #1, and by locating and re-integrating the
missing parts of your energetic body, Item #2, you have already begun your path
of ongoing adulthood initiations into archearchy.
There is a short film made by
Ian Mackenzie about Stephen Jenkinson, a next-culture elder, sometimes called Griefwalker (www.ianmack.com/videos/making-humans-stephen-jenkinson),
in which Stephen says, “Human beings are
not born. Human beings are made. Human beings are made by other human beings. And
if you ask, ‘How do you make humans?’ the answer is, ‘Well, you’ve got to kill
off their childhood.’ ‘Because why?’ ‘Because the childhood doesn’t give way,
that’s why.’ And then you need a
culture that proceeds as if the greatest gift you can give kids at a certain
age is the chance to be human.”
I am glad I did not have to be quoted as saying that. Yet
I know it is true. I’ve experienced it in myself, killing off my childhood,
putting it where it belongs, in my past when I was in the chrysalis. My
childhood was useful, and important, but it no longer sits in the driver’s seat
of my life.
Over the past 40 years I have helped many grateful others
recognize and tread the narrow paths towards adulthood. But I cannot help
observe the uninitiated, the vast majority still worshipping irresponsibility,
giving their precious authority away, thinking they are not accountable for the
consequences of their inactions. This is particularly disgusting to see in men,
because the patriarchy enthrones us for indulging in our immaturity. And we
acquiesce without resistance to this manipulated deception.
Next culture does not enthrone your immaturity – it
builds no thrones. People organize in circles instead of pyramids. If you are
uninitiated (or are incapable of initiation due to being psychopathic – as
exemplified by being able to do whatever
it takes to climb the hierarchy) you aren’t given a position of power in
next culture: not teacher, not police-officer, not manager, not administrator, not
mayor, not soldier, not doctor, not priest, and not politician… think how much
suffering that would avoid.
This is why Item
# 3 on your checklist for establishing archearchal men’s culture is to upgrade
your thoughtware so you are able to distinguish between a person and their Box by learning Box Technology (pages 55-59 in Conscious
Feelings), and also to distinguish your own Shadow Principles and calling each person’s Gremlin by name (pages 68-86 Conscious
Feelings).
For extra credit, your men’s culture could include the
Theory of Parasitic Entities. This
theory states that everything is food for everything else, and when people are
not attentive they become food for parasitic entities. Perhaps you have noticed
this: ordinary intelligent people becoming suddenly absent and entering a
depressed or confused mood for seemingly no reason. Then after a few hours or days
– when the entity has finished gorging itself – the mood ends, also seemingly
without cause. Your men’s culture can train each other to become trigger hunters, identifying the inner
trigger sentences that call in the entity to feed, thereby gaining the option
of choosing not to feed it. For more information about parasitic entities
please write to Sonia Willaredt (sonia@nextculture.org)
and ask her to email you SPARK 135.
(S.P.A.R.K. by the way, stands for Specific Practical Applications of Radical
Knowledge. SPARKs are high-quality energetic food for your men’s culture.
You can subscribe to them for free at this link: www.ncrtc.eu/Newsletter.198.0.html?&L=0.
Then every 3 weeks you’ll receive by email a powerful distinction, accompanied
by notes that unfold its practical application in daily life, as well as
nonlinear experiments to try. Doing such experiments builds more matrix into
your energetic body. Building more matrix means automatically catching more
consciousness. Then your men’s culture evolves.)
In rapidly evolving circumstances, the ways of the
past cannot be the ways of the present. That is why in archearchy there is no knowing
around which men’s culture can gather. Instead men gather around the void, the
nothingness, the not knowing, and keep practicing how to hold and navigate that
space of emptiness, and how to make use of it to create relationships and
nonlinear possibilities.
Meetings in a circle are not leaderless. This is a
misconception. In circular organizing individuals rotate holding one of the
various roles, for example Spaceholder, Time keeper, Chaos Generator, Bullshit
Detector, Heart Connection Detector, and the teams of people trained to
navigate rapid shift processes when personal liquid states arise during the
meeting in response to whatever issue is being discussed. This new meeting
technology is the Phoenix Process,
where three valuables are simultaneously delivered:
1. Covering
agenda points and making decisions,
2. Personal
development processes when conflicts or breakdowns occur, and
3. High
level fun entertainment.
If men’s culture can come together then women’s
culture automatically comes together because the space is held. If the men’s
and women’s cultures can get themselves together, then the children’s culture
thrives. What you then have is a village with an ever-evolving new future.
A proper functioning archearchal men’s culture builds
personal and community-wide capabilities through holding ongoing adulthood
initiatory processes at the center of village culture. Then your young people step
into a dynamic framework for their lives by finding the path of evolution early
on. This is where archearchy shines.
It is often recognized (although not in modern public
schools…) that each individual person has gifts, unique capabilities that are
needed by the village. But just as a sail is useless unless it is hoisted, these
unique gifts can’t be applied until they are unfurled to catch the prevailing winds
of consciousness and can provide their directed energy. (Each child dying of
starvation anywhere in the world right now also has gifts that are lost...)
Archearchal Men’s culture is a powerful catalyst for
unfurling and applying beneficial gifts. Each man’s feedback and coaching
provides intelligence and energy that assists each of the other men to
distinguish, connect with, and serve their archetypal
lineage. (This is where in archearchy the men’s and women’s culture have
the same objective – calling through the Being of each person, and working
collaboratively as representatives of their individual archetypal lineages.)
Quite some preparations are required to be capable of serving your archetypal
lineage, just as preparations are needed to deliver surgeries, to perform in a
philharmonic orchestra, or to grow a productive vegetable garden.
Your archetypal lineage will appear in your life as a
project to do, as jobs on your bench, requiring your every resource to
accomplish. Delivering full value as your archetypal lineage in action feels
like ongoing ecstasy of life-purpose fulfillment.
Getting into that flow depends
on exchanging mutual help with your archearchal culture of fellow men on the
evolutionary path. For more about archetypal lineage, please write to Sonia
Willaredt sonia@nextculture.org and
ask her to send you SPARK 141.
If in this article you sense a caustic bitter mood sending wisps of grey smoke curling up between the lines, you sensed it right.
I feel angry about how pathetic the efforts of men trapped in the patriarchy are
towards getting out. How hopelessly, stupidly, and easily men have been lured
into self-congratulatory apathy, like children kidnapped with lollipops. It is
a disgraceful response, in my opinion, to the honor and opportunity of having
been given a life with Gaia. Each person has so much individual potential and
so much of it is lost, ridiculed and wasted in the patriarchy. I may be
cynical, but at the same time I am begging you to prove me wrong.
Try this:
1. Extract yourself from the patriarchy.
2. Reintegrate the
banished parts of your energetic body.
3. Upgrade your thoughtware to
archearchal adulthood standards.
Without accomplishing these 3 things in reality – not just in your mind –
you are fooling yourself about shifting to archearchy.
Even after reading this article I don’t think you'll do anything about it.
If you have the balls, prove me wrong... and
have a glorious time doing it.
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PROCEDURE FOR RETRIEVING AND INTEGRATING BANISHED PARTS OF YOUR ENERGETIC BODY (E-BODY)
First, your group should study the Old and New Map of Feelings in the book Directing
the Power of Conscious Feelings by Clinton Callahan, pages 65 to 167. This
will require fully participating in a weekly study group for several months,
and involves actually shifting to using the New
Thoughtmap of Feelings in your daily life.
Then, when a man is ready for the initiation of
reclaiming the parts of his energetic body that were banished when he joined the patriarchy, reserve an entire evening for the procedure.
Choose one man to be the Process Navigator. The rest of the men are on the e-body retrieval and integration team.
(NOTE: This process has two separate parts. Both parts need to be accomplished elegantly and powerfully. The Process Navigator
should read through these instructions carefully before the process begins so
he knows how it goes. Read the words in italics out loud. These are the instructions for the client to follow. These exact words cause the shifts to occur, so try to speak them exactly.)
SET-UP LOGISTICS
A candle should be lit at the side of the room. Dim the lights half way. Ask the man to lie on his back on the mattress in the middle of the floor surrounded by the other men sitting and holding space for this process. Tissues should be available, and a plastic bucket in case the man needs to vomit, plus a blanket for
later.
PART 1 – RETRIEVING THE MISSING PART OF THE ENERGETIC
BODY
· (Speak to the man's body, not to his mind.) Take a
deep breath. Close your eyes. Relax.
· Remember back in your life to the moment
you decided to join the patriarchy. It could have been just before your birth,
during your birth, or soon after your birth. Find that moment. (PAUSE) Signal me with your hand when you find that
moment. (PAUSE – if they do not find the moment, you stop the process here,
and try again at a later date.)
·
What was
happening then? (PAUSE) What did you
decide in that moment? (PAUSE) What
did you send away to disempower your uniqueness? (PAUSE)
·
Keep your
eyes closed. Locate the missing part of your energetic body. It is floating
around you somewhere. Point to it with your finger. What color is it?
(PAUSE) What shape is it? (PAUSE) Gently reach out and cradle the part with
both hands. (PAUSE)
·
Say to
that part, “Hello soul.” (PAUSE) What
does it say? (PAUSE – if they do not sense the soul’s response, try again.
If there is nothing, you stop here.)
·
Say to
that part, “Long ago I had to remove my individuality and disempower myself so
I could join the patriarchy and find a way to survive, so I sent you away.”
(PAUSE)
·
Say to
that part, “Thank you for waiting for me.” (PAUSE) What does it say?
·
Use both
hands to find the hole in your energetic body where that part used to be. Show
us the size and shape of the hole. (PAUSE – the hole can be anywhere from
20 cm to 80 cm big. If they don’t show you, you stop here.)
·
Say to
that part, “I filled in this hole where you were with something to protect
myself because you weren’t there.” (PAUSE)
·
Ice,
stainless steel, tar, cement, revenge, or hopelessness are often used to fill
the hole for protection. What did you fill your hole with? (PAUSE – if they
do not tell you clearly and specifically, you stop here.)
·
Before you
can bring your soul back, you need to empty the hole. It will be hard work. It
will be loud and painful. And it takes time. It will hurt like ripping your
guts out. You do it over and over again, layer after layer, until every corner of
the hole is empty. Each time you rip a chunk of it out, click your fingers to
make a black hole in the floor, throw the chunk in, and click your fingers
again to vanish the black hole. Do you understand and agree? (PAUSE – if
they do not say “Yes” you stop here.)
·
Everybody
ready? (Glance around the room to connect with your team of men.) Everybody please take a deep breath.
(PAUSE)
·
Okay
_________ (say the man’s name), we
are with you. Please begin! (As soon as the man starts screaming and
digging out pieces of stuff, encourage the other men to shout along with him, “Go!
Keep going! Dig out the next piece! Throw it in the black hole! Get the next
piece!” And so on. This purification can take up to 15 minutes. Towards the
end, sit silently a moment to notice any further remnants in the hole. Usually
it takes two or three more digging times than the man thinks.)
·
(When the hole is fully cleaned out…) Everybody please take a deep breath. (PAUSE)
·
(Say the man’s name…) _________, reach out with both hands and gently hold the missing piece
of your soul. Tell it, “I have cleaned out the place where you belong.” (PAUSE)
“Please come back home.” (PAUSE – the
man may cry now, and this is totally appropriate. Do not stop him! He is fine!
The man should ever-so-slowly bring the piece back into its place. When his
hands are on his own body you may need to press your hands on top of his hands
to finish pressing the part all the way into place.) Press it in. Welcome it back. (PAUSE)
·
On your
right side is a jar of energetic healing cream. What color is the cream?
(PAUSE – he will answer “Pink” or “Green”. Whatever he says, continue.) Open
the jar and spread handfuls of this healing cream over the edges so the soul
joins back together onto one whole again. (PAUSE)
PART 2 – INTEGRATING THE E-BODY WITH THE 7 CHAKRAS
· You are now going to integrate your renewed
energetic body with your 7 chakras.
·
(SET-UP LOGISTICS: Instruct 2 men to move to the client’s feet and
press both their hands on one of his feet. Instruct 2 other men to move to the
client’s head and each press one hand on the crown of his head (not his
forehead) and one hand on one of his shoulders. Tell all these men they will
need to push fiercely.)
·
Do you
know where your 7 chakras are? (Almost everyone knows approximately. It need not be perfect. You
can correct him as you go along.)
·
The
process goes like this: you touch one
finger to your first chakra – which is down between your legs. Then you let go,
move your hand away, and integrate your soul with that chakra. It is like spot
welding. You can’t do this with your mind. It is energetic. Your body knows how
to do this. Your body will integrate through shouts, screams, and seizure spasms.
It may feel like you are going crazy. That is exactly how it feels. It takes
only 10 or 15 seconds of full writhing and screaming with each chakra. Then
stop. Then touch the next chakra with one finger, let it go, and integrate. All
seven, one after the other, without rushing. Are you ready? (pause – this
is no time for discussion. The procedure is extremely simple to do. Just get
him started and his body will continue. Keep coaching the head and feet men to
push with all their might. The pressure is important.)
·
Point to
your seventh chakra, which is at the crown of your head. (Instruct the head
men to take their hands off the client’s head and put both hands on a
shoulder.) Get ready. This is the big
one. It integrates all 7 chakras into one flow. Ready? Touch your seventh
chakra. Now INTEGRATE! Go! Go!
·
(After the man comes to a full natural stop,
keep the room still and silent for some minutes. Then say:) That was it. (PAUSE) You did it. (PAUSE) Please keep your eyes closed. We ask you to lie still for 20 to 30
minutes to let your four bodies continue integrating what you just
accomplished.
·
Here is a
blanket to stay warm. (Offer to cover him with it, being sure to tuck the
blanket under his feet.)
·
Do you
want a glass of water? (If yes, one man brings water. Wait until he
finishes drinking.)
·
We are
going to slide you over to the side of the room. Just lay still. (All the
men help slide the mattress over.)
·
We will be
sharing about what came up for us during your work, and making plans for who is
next. Do you need anything else right now? (PAUSE) Please signal us if you need anything. Well done.
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